The perfect marriage

I was talking to a good friend of mine yesterday and she said to me "you and Tim have the perfect marriage" I thought REALLY and said "well thank you". I thought about that quite a bit last night when I was trying to go to sleep, do we have what people see as a perfect marriage....noooo!! Some of you might look at Tim and I and think we're good, but most of you didn't get to experience our UGLY days!!

Let me take you to the beginning for just a moment. We had Jack quite young (yes he was planned) Tim was like 18 and I was 19 when I got pregnant. The reason for this is my Dr. told me I would have trouble conceiving...little did they know!!! I refused to get married just because I was pregnant, so we were married when Jack was around a year old. We were happy, at least we thought we were, but Tim was working crazy hours in Detroit and I was a new mom who wouldn't even put the baby down to pee. We forgot to work on ourselves and almost lost our relationship in the process. Tim and I did spend about three months separated, which was a huge blessing in disguise! At first I was so glad to be away from him, but neither of us had ever really given up on each other or being together. So he moved back home and we have really been great since then. Spending three months apart made us both realize that we don't want to spend another day apart ever!! We still fight, for all of you that really know me you know that I have a wicked temper, so yes we fight but never very often and we are quick to make up!

So back to my point about our so called perfect marriage...our marriage went through the bad spots and we were just one of the lucky couples to come out of it together! I think every marriage will face many bumps along the way and then you might hit a brick wall one time, like Tim and I did, what you do when you hit this wall is completely up to you. There are two paths you can take you can get a divorce or you can change! We choice to change we choice to make the changes that needed to be made to make each other happy...and it worked!! I'm so happy we decided to take that path, I can't imagine my life without Tim for even a moment! I think we have a really good marriage, I know there is nothing that Tim wouldn't do for me, and there is nothing I wouldn't do for him! We both feel blessed and lucky to have each other and work on "us" all the time! We make sure we go out for our date nights, we talk all the time, we always hold hands, hug and kiss!! Marriage is a lot of work and it's easy to be too tired to work on it when you have kids, but if you take the time to work on it, it's soo worth it!!!